Just do you. Present yourself as a professional. Don't dumb yourself down just to fit in. Your 'polish' will be what defines you. Have you ever read Christine Feehan? She was pretty good from what I remember.
Wow! I'm not just saying this, but I will read this book, though I tend to hate the psychological thrillers. I'm really interested in seeing how the author pulls this off.
Pulp Fiction is a good example. I could tell that it was a good movie, but after a while, I got to be too much. I notice Tarantino has a habit of using stylized violence. It either works really well (Like you said, Kill Bill, Inglorious Basterds) or it fails (Grindhouse, imo).
The showing, not telling rule? I have to respectfully disagree. While it can be a sign of lazy writing, italicised internal dialogue can be used to show something about a character. Instead of saying 'she felt self conscious', I can show it in her thoughts.
I agree with this, and you shouldn't break rules just for the sake of breaking them. I'll even say that there are some rules that should almost always be followed, like those you listed above. However, if your story itself is going to be negatively affected by a rule, why keep it? For example...
When I do sit down to write and edit and finetune my book, I will make the best that *I* can make it. I will make my story the best that it can be. Not what anyone else says is the best. I do read what the 'rules' are, because one of my favorite sayings is to know and understand the rules, so...
If you need to know anything relating to the above topics, feel free to ask me :) I've done a lot of reading up about midwifery and I have a traditional midwife in my family. I've given birth 'naturally' twice and I have a bunch of books about the topic, especially dealing with ancient...
I like using italics for thought. I think showing what the character is thinking bring the reader closer to character. And I disagree that it is always a case of telling rather than showing. You can use the character's internal dialogue to reveal something about their personality.
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I don't really like gore too much. I tend to get turned off of movies and shows that are needlessly gory. The only exception I have to that rule is Spartacus on Starz because the character development and plot is just so gripping to me. I usually look away when those scenes come up (that and the...