Yes, absolutely. I am right there with you. I like to say that I was raised by the United States Navy and I'll admit, after a childhood where all my dad's friends thought it was hilarious to teach me and my sister, both stinking cute when we were tiny, how to kill people, that I may be a little warped. Definitely some pathology going on there. But, they make excellent psychiatric meds. And then there's writing.I very rarely disagree with you, but this is one case where I will make an exception. Sure, as a youngster I thought it was pretty cool learning about (and being good at) unarmed combat and shooting things. Turned out I was pretty good at that sort of thing, and I was also good at leading in the field. Then I served on a few UN peacekeeping operations and saw the price paid afterwards - and learnt the hard way the price I was to pay. This what I mean when I say that violence must have consequences.
Speaking/writing from bitter personal experience you and others do pay a price for violence, maybe not immediately, but in the end you will pay. You're never the same again. Flashbacks, nightmares, they all come to haunt you. It can and does wreck close personal relationships. It was Dr Hook who released an album called Pleasure and Pain - and they weren't wrong.
You are absolutely right, and certainly more experienced than me. Real-world violence is terrifying, brutal, often senseless, often desperately needed. I'm reading up on serial killers for the first time this week, research. This is not fun. But! if I wanted that, I'd write True Crime or Mystery. I write Urban Fantasy, which I think makes a good point that the level of violence can often be genre-dependent. So, Urban Fantasy, known for hot guys, fun violence, and amazing cars. We make readers laugh.
Then we come for your feels.