My wife did a better job with the don't-say-stupid rule than I did. Yeah, I agree it's not so much no-swearing as it is no-rudeness (that we teach/model to our little ones).
Banten said:Generally i consider cursing indicative of a weak will. If someone can't even control their language, how can i expect them to control more important things? If someone can't even refrain from using a few words all the time then how can they prevent themselves from acting on other impulses?
Legendary Sidekick said:My wife did a better job with the don't-say-stupid rule than I did. Yeah, I agree it's not so much no-swearing as it is no-rudeness (that we teach/model to our little ones).
Heliotrope said:So, if my teenager was to tell me to "F*ck off!"
vs.
"Mom, I disagree with you about this. Can we talk about it, please? And maybe we can come to an agreement?"
Oh great... and here I was telling my story about how I thwarted the Nazis in Rome with the F-bomb, using the F-word (for accuracy), and the guy I was telling is from Connecticut. Now don't I feel like a Masshole-without-an-M.My wife is from Connecticut, and she considers hell, damn, sucks and crap to be swear words.
This begs the question, though, why should someone control their language in this way and avoid swearing? This goes back to the original question: what exactly is wrong with swearing?
Generally i consider cursing indicative of a weak will. If someone can't even control their language, how can i expect them to control more important things? If someone can't even refrain from using a few words all the time then how can they prevent themselves from acting on other impulses?
Besides that i think it means the person in question is uncreative. Why use the same couple of words to insult if you can do the same thing in much more beautiful and creative ways.
If they don't choose to control their language but are mentally fully capable of doing so then i just think that they are lacking in empathy, rebelious for no good reason (Attention seekers) or they lack understanding/respect of social rules. Which is similar to lacking empathy, but not quite the same.
Banten said:and while i do not condone using these words oftenly or in inappropriate situations (like a funeral)
If someone wishes cancer upon someone else than i feel justified to think of them as having a weak will or being socially incapable.
Why not a funeral, though? What counts as an inappropriate situation to use a perfectly harmless word?
Banten said:For the same reason you don't talk about sex or drugs at a funeral. Ok things to do in my book, but there are things you just don't do at these kind of things. Call it convention if you want. I call it being an adult and behaving like one.
Also i never said that the word "f*ck" is harmless. I said that it is not on the same level as wishing someone to have cancer. The simple thing that this word is used to harm someone makes it harmful. The intention behind a word is important and if a certain intention is so often coupled with a certain word then it might as well be synonymous with the word.