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until it has passed under my own scrutinization (is that a word?)
Since you asked: "scrutiny." (And you will all note, please, that I never correct anyone who doesn't ask.)
I will admit, though, for as harsh a critic as I can be, there are some people I have difficulty being as brutal as I tend to be towards. My husband and my best friend, namely. As it is, my husband won't show me his works until he's done some thorough editing himself, but my best friend? Yeah... she's not a bad writer, but she's got a few years to go. I tend to just distance myself from her while I'm editing and critiquing a piece of hers, otherwise I'd have a bit of trouble addressing the issues nicely.
I show people my stuff when I'm ready for input, whatever that stage is… usually not until I've gone over it repeatedly, but it depends on what I'm looking for. Often I'll show a partially-finished work to someone when I feel stuck, or when I know something's missing or awkward but can't tell what. I don't think I've ever used a suggestion that was given me in such a circumstance–but the feedback invariably sparks something that I do use. (My usual "that's not how I'd do it" reaction again… at which point I realize how I would do it.)
As for "being brutal": hey, you're a writer, right? Should be able to come up with creative ways to present things.…
Try the question approach, at least for anything that isn't outright correction. "Why does X do this here?" "Did I miss where you mentioned Y earlier?" "Would Z happen because of this?" Et cetera. Lets the other person feel smart because she knows something about her story that you don't (even if she didn't before you asked!), or lets her figure out the answer herself.
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