Don’t say something against my friend XY. — The thing with different opinions

[Writer’s_Magic]

Sometimes when I am at my school I believe we have more or less a dark and light site.

Don’t get me wrong! When we discuss neutral things it’s ok. But don’t get the idea to say something against the friends of the popular students! Then you have the fire in the house.

No. Seriously. For example, in one discussion I was the opinion—I have it still—parenting is the most important stuff. However, the other group said, “You can’t change it when you’re a disability.” For me as a girl who has Asperger’s syndrome was it the most stupid answer of all time. And those students who said (the most of them) it has it, too. And they go to a school which is particular guys and gals with a disability.

The best thing was: the rest of the week they bawled me out. Just because I said something more realistic.

But did you have a situation like this, too? First, they say, “you can say everything that you want.” When it’s against their opinion you’re the boo-man.

 

[pmmg]

Welcome to life. It only gets worse on the internet...

I am not sure I really followed that, but its just drama. Life goes on, and it will sort itself out.

People form strong opinions on stuff. And they don't easily give them up. Some seem predisposed to one type of position over another, and some of the issues just seem to lend themselves into other issues, so its not really surprising that a person who feels strongly about some issue, also might have a somewhat predictable view on others.

You cant fix the world, and no one will see it exactly as you do.

I think the trick is, figure out what and why you believe, be prepared to be wrong on all of it, be open to things that may change your mind, and be ready to stand up for it if needed. But don't fall into the hole of hoping to 'win' against others. You cant control them, and they may not ever share your same level of openness. If people are failing to be objective, kick the dust off your sandals and walk away. The rest is their damage, it does not have to be yours.

In spite of it all, logic and debate, and facts and arguments, people seem more likely to stay in the camps that they are most comfortable with. I think it is just human nature.

And yes, you can say anything you want, you just cant say it and expect others will not want to crucify you for it

 

[Writer’s_Magic]

pmmg That’s clear with "You can’t control them". We live in a democracy. But they can still use their brain and leave the "be too left and don’t respect other (realistic) opinion"-train.

 

[pmmg]

Well...maybe they can, and maybe they cant. Some don't really have the tools. If its a democracy, just leave them where they are and out vote them.

If they are your friends, then accept once in a while you wont agree, no need to end the world. And if they are your friends, but not really, well in time you will drift anyway.

I hate to say it, WM, but I am not sure I can follow the phraseology you are using. What does 'be too left' mean?

 

[Writer’s_Magic]

pmmg You know. Left politician opinion

 

[pmmg]

pmmg You know. Left politician opinion

Sorry, I am sure we are not to drift into politics on the forums. Part of that, 'not every one can handle openness', thing.

I'll send you a PM.

 

[Adela]

Sometimes when I am at my school I believe we have more or less a dark and light site.

Don’t get me wrong! When we discuss neutral things it’s ok. But don’t get the idea to say something against the friends of the popular students! Then you have the fire in the house.

No. Seriously. For example, in one discussion I was the opinion—I have it still—parenting is the most important stuff. However, the other group said, “You can’t change it when you’re a disability.” For me as a girl who has Asperger’s syndrome was it the most stupid answer of all time. And those students who said (the most of them) it has it, too. And they go to a school which is particular guys and gals with a disability.

The best thing was: the rest of the week they bawled me out. Just because I said something more realistic.

But did you have a situation like this, too? First, they say, “you can say everything that you want.” When it’s against their opinion you’re the boo-man.

Well, I followed that. As someone who also has a disability, you become "realistic" real quick. Other people don't always see the way you see. They may never understand. It's difficult to speak to family or friends. You hear every phrase. "You don't look sick." "Just tell yourself you'll be okay." "You need to get out more." "Maybe if you exercised." Everything!

I'm surprised this is a school that has other people with disabilities? Am I understanding that right?

And how is this political? Never mind, I don't want to know.

 

[Writer’s_Magic]

Adela You understood it right. You know. Communism and be right. That opinion isn’t socialism anymore.

 

[Adela]

Um, okay. Guess I'm being labeled once again... *leaves after trying to help*

 

[Tom]

People disagree. That's the nature of the world. I myself don't want to be a parent (or think I'd be a particularly good one) because of the way the symptoms of my ADHD interfere with how I function in day-to-day life. Everyone has reasons for arriving at differing opinions, and trying to understand those reasons even when you don't agree with someone can teach you a lot in life.

 

[Writer’s_Magic]

Reaver Yah! I know it. It makes me angry that such rules can be implemented in real-life. My mates, in school - and no there aren’t my friends, have the motto: " i accept you so long you have my opinion." That it.