So a lot of us have critique partners or others that read our work. I've been happy with my regular critique partners, so I have no complaints. However, I've recently been engaged in a discussion of what equals "too harsh" when it comes to critiques. We all have different thresholds, I suppose, but I've always been of the opinion if you're asking for critiques, then you're asking to be criticism. That said, someone posted this article to a game designer I really liked:
Raph's Website » On getting criticism
The short points from Raph Koster are this (if you want his explanations, check out the article):
1. Everyone who dislikes your work is right.
My thoughts: If you read his thoughts, this is technically correct. You can't force someone to like what you've written since each person has a different experience. I thought this was one of the most interesting points he has because I think a lot of writers who may get bad critiques or reviews wonder what they did wrong. Well, sometimes you did nothing wrong. Something just didn't work for that particular reader.
2. The criticism that is useful is that which helps you do it better.
Yes, this is another good point. Of course those asking for crits want them to be helpful and useful, not just tearing down work for the sake of doing it.
3. Nothing's perfect.
No matter how long you work on something, it will never be perfect. Sorry. But, it can get as near perfect as you can get it.
4. You have to choose between your ideals and your message.
It's too late for me to think about this too much, but yeah, I'd aiming somewhere in the middle might work best.
5. You have to dig to get the gold.
I take this to mean, you have to work hard to get something as polished and coherent as possible. I'd say polished and coherent is much more important than completely original.
6. Good feedback is detailed.
Agreed. Moving on.
7. People who tell you you’re awesome are useless. No, dangerous.
It's OK to have friends that tell you that you're really good or that your story engaged them. But yeah, people who just praise ever single thing you do aren't really helping you get better. Some praise now and again is great, but I'd beware too much of a good thing.
8. Someone asked for feedback will always find something wrong.
Very interesting. I find that this has been my overall experience. If you ask someone to look at something, they'll most likely find something wrong with it. Just to feel like they helped. However, you have to decide if whatever they said was wrong works for you or not.
9. Good work may not have an audience.
Another point that is somewhat true and also depressing. There are loads and loads of awesome books out there. However, due to some quirk or subject matter, they may never find an audience. So even if your book is the most awesome thing ever written, if you plan to sell it to the public, you may want to find something that can connect to a wider base. That is unless you're a genius. In that case, carry on.
10. Any feedback that comes with suggestions for improvement is awesome.
Totally agree.
11. If you agree with the criticism, say “thank you.” If you disagree, say “fair enough,” and “thank you.”
My same philosophy. It's never a good idea to argue with someone who spent the time to help you. They found things that didn't work for them. Say thank you and move on. You can chose to improve it or decide that it's already good the way it is. It's your book, do what you want with it.
12. You are not your work.
Always a hard one to accept. Especially if a review or critique feels unnecessarily harsh for you. But at the end of the day, I always detach myself from my projects now. Nothing is sacred. There may be things I feel are really good, but others may disagree. This doesn't mean I'm a horrible writer, it just means I have more work to do.
That's it!
Anyway, if you like to read his points, check out the article. I don't currently have anything being critiqued, but I plan to keep these points in mind for the future.
Raph's Website » On getting criticism
The short points from Raph Koster are this (if you want his explanations, check out the article):
1. Everyone who dislikes your work is right.
My thoughts: If you read his thoughts, this is technically correct. You can't force someone to like what you've written since each person has a different experience. I thought this was one of the most interesting points he has because I think a lot of writers who may get bad critiques or reviews wonder what they did wrong. Well, sometimes you did nothing wrong. Something just didn't work for that particular reader.
2. The criticism that is useful is that which helps you do it better.
Yes, this is another good point. Of course those asking for crits want them to be helpful and useful, not just tearing down work for the sake of doing it.
3. Nothing's perfect.
No matter how long you work on something, it will never be perfect. Sorry. But, it can get as near perfect as you can get it.
4. You have to choose between your ideals and your message.
It's too late for me to think about this too much, but yeah, I'd aiming somewhere in the middle might work best.
5. You have to dig to get the gold.
I take this to mean, you have to work hard to get something as polished and coherent as possible. I'd say polished and coherent is much more important than completely original.
6. Good feedback is detailed.
Agreed. Moving on.
7. People who tell you you’re awesome are useless. No, dangerous.
It's OK to have friends that tell you that you're really good or that your story engaged them. But yeah, people who just praise ever single thing you do aren't really helping you get better. Some praise now and again is great, but I'd beware too much of a good thing.
8. Someone asked for feedback will always find something wrong.
Very interesting. I find that this has been my overall experience. If you ask someone to look at something, they'll most likely find something wrong with it. Just to feel like they helped. However, you have to decide if whatever they said was wrong works for you or not.
9. Good work may not have an audience.
Another point that is somewhat true and also depressing. There are loads and loads of awesome books out there. However, due to some quirk or subject matter, they may never find an audience. So even if your book is the most awesome thing ever written, if you plan to sell it to the public, you may want to find something that can connect to a wider base. That is unless you're a genius. In that case, carry on.
10. Any feedback that comes with suggestions for improvement is awesome.
Totally agree.
11. If you agree with the criticism, say “thank you.” If you disagree, say “fair enough,” and “thank you.”
My same philosophy. It's never a good idea to argue with someone who spent the time to help you. They found things that didn't work for them. Say thank you and move on. You can chose to improve it or decide that it's already good the way it is. It's your book, do what you want with it.
12. You are not your work.
Always a hard one to accept. Especially if a review or critique feels unnecessarily harsh for you. But at the end of the day, I always detach myself from my projects now. Nothing is sacred. There may be things I feel are really good, but others may disagree. This doesn't mean I'm a horrible writer, it just means I have more work to do.
That's it!
Anyway, if you like to read his points, check out the article. I don't currently have anything being critiqued, but I plan to keep these points in mind for the future.