Ophiucha
Auror
I think it may become a forum in-joke after this.
And yes, same, particularly if you are interested in writing something with an LGBTQ+ angle. Everyone is free to shoot me a PM or an email if you have my address. I've read my fair share of erotica, and before I started doing editing for a bit of money on the side, I used to just critique people's fanfiction - 99% of which was an elaborate excuse for a sex scene. It shouldn't feel too weird to share; when it comes to literature, a sex scene really is just any other scene, just with a few more words you're probably not using much in the rest of the book.
Here's a video of Charles Dance (Tywin Lannister, for the GOT fans) reading 50 Shades of Grey. Just for a laugh.
Sometimes it definitely reads like that. In feminist circles, we often use the term 'male gaze'. You can usually tell who the target audience for a piece of titillating material was based on where the focus is and how they are described. I often find that when it's written for the nerdy male audience, you have a really odd kind of mixed-message female lead, who walks around barely clothed and maybe even acts a little flirty yet becomes embarrassed and virginal the second she's behind closed doors. I'm not sure why men find that appealing (or why other men presume men find that appealing), but I've definitely noticed it in a lot of sex scenes written in the sort of 'Conan the Barbarian'-style fantasy novels.
And yes, same, particularly if you are interested in writing something with an LGBTQ+ angle. Everyone is free to shoot me a PM or an email if you have my address. I've read my fair share of erotica, and before I started doing editing for a bit of money on the side, I used to just critique people's fanfiction - 99% of which was an elaborate excuse for a sex scene. It shouldn't feel too weird to share; when it comes to literature, a sex scene really is just any other scene, just with a few more words you're probably not using much in the rest of the book.
Here's a video of Charles Dance (Tywin Lannister, for the GOT fans) reading 50 Shades of Grey. Just for a laugh.
I sometimes think sex is throwing a bone to the "stereotypical nerds", the ones that read comic books, never seen female naked, and worked on computers, before computers were normal. I think alot of people outside the genre, still think fantasy genre are made up of these people, thus they feel they have to include the grat. sex scene or at least show the hot female MC topless, if not regularly dressed up in tight revealing leather or plate armor.
Sometimes it definitely reads like that. In feminist circles, we often use the term 'male gaze'. You can usually tell who the target audience for a piece of titillating material was based on where the focus is and how they are described. I often find that when it's written for the nerdy male audience, you have a really odd kind of mixed-message female lead, who walks around barely clothed and maybe even acts a little flirty yet becomes embarrassed and virginal the second she's behind closed doors. I'm not sure why men find that appealing (or why other men presume men find that appealing), but I've definitely noticed it in a lot of sex scenes written in the sort of 'Conan the Barbarian'-style fantasy novels.